Follow the six-minute rule to make sex more pleasurable.
The idea of long, leisurely sex might sound appealing but who really has the time or energy?
But just because you can’t commit to a night of tantric action, that doesn’t mean you can’t have a significantly more satisfying sex life – and all you need is six extra minutes.
A new study has found that most of us want a little extra pre- and post-game play and it barely has to take any time at all.
Commissioned by Trojan condoms and the Sex Information and Education Council of Canada, the study of 1,500 Canadians aged between 18 and 24 found that people of all sexualities who participated in ‘pre-sex affectionate behaviour’ (i.e. kissing, cuddling, foreplay) which lasted at least six minutes were more likely to feel ‘very sexually satisfied.
And an even higher number of people were more satisfied if they partook in post-sex affectionate behaviour for the same amount of time.
Experts are calling it the ‘six-minute rule’.
So why are six minutes the sweet spot for sexual intimacy?
Robin Milhausen, sexuality professor at the University of Guelph, worked on the study and said that people in heterosexual relationships tend to forget that there’s pleasure to be had outside standard vaginal intercourse.
‘Oftentimes, we forget about the opportunity that comes from bonding after sex,’ she told Refinery29.
‘We’re vulnerable, we feel relaxed, we feel really connected, and so, that’s a perfect time for intimacy that can lead to more sexual satisfaction.’
Timing has no real impact on a man’s ability to orgasm… whereas 61% of women won’t reach orgasm without these extra tidbits of intimacy. Perhaps there’s traditionally been an issue with men and women viewing sex differently and therefore not being mutually satisfying.
But six minutes is all it takes to increase satisfaction for both parties – and it doesn’t cost a thing.
We would, however, say that six minutes of foreplay should be more of a minimum requirement, not an upper limit – especially considering it typically takes 14 minutes for a woman to reach orgasm.
So the next time you’re about to go in for a quickie, have a think whether you can afford a little extra time either side.